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menshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung,andwomenshouldmarrywhentheyareyoung.thishasbeenanunchangingprinciplesinceancienttimes.Althoughitisnowadvocatedtochangecustomsandengageinnewweddings,paredtothe1960sand1970s,ithasbeemoreluxuriousandthesimplecustomsofpeoplenolongerexist.IamfromZhuzhou,hunan.LetmetalkabouttheweddingcustomsinZhuzhou.
isitingandEngaging
matchmakerestoproposemarriage
whenmenandwomenreachtheageofmarriage,theirparentsfirstfindamatchmaker.whenthematchmakerdiscoversthatthereissomeoneofappropriateageinthefamily,theyfirstmunicatewiththeirparentsandthenscheduleadatetoarrangeablinddatelocation,usuallyamarketplace.onthedayofthemarket,boththemanandthewomangotothedesignatedlocation,takealookateachother,sayafewwords,andshowtheircheerfulpersonalityonthespot.Generally,theywillreturnhomeandtalktothematchmaker.Afteragreeing,themanwillchooseadateforengagement(wecallitdingshithere).thereisalsoatypethatisfavoredbyoneselforbyparents,suchascousins.Iftheyarerelated,parentswillentrustanacquaintancetoactasamatchmaker.Inthe1960sand1970s,manycousinsgotmarriedinruralareas,andthethirdrepresentativeofsiblingsgettingmarriedwasmore.thisiscalled\"newrelativesgettingmarriedwitholdrelatives\",whichisevenmorejoyful,butthiskindofcloserelativesgettingmarriedisstillnotgood.
theengagementrequiresfourkindsofgifts,thatis,afewpiecesofcloth.decentfamilieswillusedacronanddacronfabrics,nylonsocks,andthosewithpooreconomicconditionswillusekhakiclothandcottonsocks.Inthisway,eveniftheengagementissuccessful,themancangotothewoman'shomeandsendsomegiftstothewoman'shomefortheNewYearholiday.Generally,thefourkindsofgiftsarethesame,namely,thebeginningofSummerFestival,thedragonboatFestival,themid-AutumnFestivalandtheSpringFestival.meat,eggs,noodlesAndapieceoffabric,afterayearortwo,whenbothpartieshavenoobjections,thewomantellsthematchmakerthattheycancuttheshoesample(thatis,themantellsthewomanthesizeoftheshoeswornbyhisfamily).themangivesthewomansomemoneyforcuttingthesample,whichwasonlyafewtensofyuanatthattime.thewomanneedstomakeapairofshoesforeachmemberoftheman'sfamilyandmatchthemwithhand-embroideredinsoles.
preparationbeforeandaftermarriage
Anecessarydowryforwomen
beforemarriage,themangivesthewomansomemoneytobuyadowry.dependingonthefamily'seconomicconditions,hecangivethewomanthreetofivethousandyuanatonce,andregardlessofhowmuchmoneyshereceivesfromtheman,thesethingsmustbeallocated.onelargewardrobeorbinationcabinet,onetable,fourchairs,onebtable,onefoodcabinet,onewashbasinrack,twolargewoodencases,onesmallwoodencaseorleathercase(similartothelargertravelcaseatpresent),twohotwaterbottles,cupsandtoothbrushes,aluminumpotsforboilingwater,pressurecookerandotherdailynecessities,fourquiltsandapairofpillows.thosewithgoodfamilyconditionswillbeequippedwithamen'sbicycle,asewingmachine,ablackandwhitetVset,anelectricfan,etc.Infact,nomatterhowmuchmoneythemangivesthewoman,thewoman'sparentsbasicallydon'tusemuchofthemoney,andtheyreturnittotheirdaughtertomakecontainermoney.
whatthemanmustprepare
Inadditiontogivingthewomanthreeorfivethousandyuan,themanonlyneedstoprepareoneortwonewhousesanddoesn'tcareaboutanythingelse.Iftheman'sfamilyispoorandthereisnodowryforthewoman,thewomanwillalsobringallthedailynecessities.
onthedaybeforemarriage,themanmustpayagifttothewoman.thegiftsinclude:halforonepig,chicken,clothesorfabrics,shoesandsocksofthewoman'sparents,brothersandsisters.Allthingsshouldbeputinplace.Abigrackshouldbeusedtocarrythemtothewoman,sothatthewoman'sonlookerscanknowwhat'singataglance.Iftheman'sfamilyconditionisnotgood,hewillborrowsomethingtoputonittosaveface,becauseallthethingsthatwentthroughtheceremony,exceptforthefood,returnedtothemanthenextday.
thewomanshouldprepareasfollows
putredpacketsinthequilt,usuallytwopackets,eachofwhichis40centsforthebedmaker.thebigwoodenboxisfulloffruit,peanuts,sweetpotatochips,eggs,candybiscuits,andclothes,shoesandsockswhenyouseetheman'sparents,brothersandsistersintheman'sside.Inaddition,theparentsalsoneedtogivethedaughtersomeboxmoney(hundredstothousandsdependingontheconditions).becauseaftermarryingtheman,themother-in-lawwillopentheboxthenextday,andpeopleinthevillagewillearoundtoseetheexcitement,thepurposeistoseeifthewomanhasgivenenoughmoneyforthecontainer.
onthedaybeforemarriage,thewomanwillnotifythemanhowmanypeoplewilletoliftthingsthenextday.Generally,eightormoremenarerequiredbecausethewomanneedstocarryeverythingtotheman,andtheman'sroomonlyneedstobepreparedwithanemptyhouse.thenextmorning,aweddingprocessionwasarrangedforthemantogotothewoman'shousetoweleher.themenhadtogo,includingthegroom,twobrides(women),fivetosixgongsandcobaltteams,andpeoplecarryingthings.theyallwenttothewoman'shousetohavebreakfasttogether,blowingandplaying.Afterdinner,thewomansentoffthewedding,withonemanandtwowomenseeingoffthebride.theprocessioncarryingthingstookastepfirst,andthenthegroomandbridefollowedwithumbrellas.Regardlessoftheweather,eachpersonhadanumbrella,blowingandbeatingallthewaytothemanforlunch.
Afterdinner,theweddingsceneisalsothemostlivelysceneduringmarriage.thepurposeistohelpthegroomandbrideeliminatethefeelingofshyness.Variousprogramstrytomaketheirbodyandskincontact,suchasmouthtomoutheatingdates,twopeoplelightingfirecrackers,kittensfishing,andashpicking.themoretricks,thebetter.Nomatterhowbigorsmall,theycanmakeasmuchnoiseastheywant.Afterthe1980s,thehabitofmakingweddingscenesgraduallychangedtowatchingmovies,videos,andsinging.
conclusion:marriageinthaterawasthesimplest,especiallyforofficeworkersandworkerswhoatethenationalfood,letaloneworryaboutanything.theyhadfreelove,andwhentheygotmarried,theirunithadashareofthehouse.theunitleaderswouldpersonallyholdtheweddingfortheyoungcouple,andaftermarriage,theyoungcoupleslowlymadesomefurniture.Unlikenow,housesmustbeboughtbythemselves,andsomepeoplewouldbeepropertyslavesforalifetime.thaterawastrulysocialist!
Later,withthedevelopmentofsocietyandtheimprovementofmateriallivingstandards,betrothalgiftsemerged,startingwiththreemajoritems:bicycles,watches,andsewingmachines.Later,itdevelopedintofourmajoritems,fivemajoritems,andsoon,untilnow,Iwon'tsaymuchaboutit.
isitingandEngaging
matchmakerestoproposemarriage
whenmenandwomenreachtheageofmarriage,theirparentsfirstfindamatchmaker.whenthematchmakerdiscoversthatthereissomeoneofappropriateageinthefamily,theyfirstmunicatewiththeirparentsandthenscheduleadatetoarrangeablinddatelocation,usuallyamarketplace.onthedayofthemarket,boththemanandthewomangotothedesignatedlocation,takealookateachother,sayafewwords,andshowtheircheerfulpersonalityonthespot.Generally,theywillreturnhomeandtalktothematchmaker.Afteragreeing,themanwillchooseadateforengagement(wecallitdingshithere).thereisalsoatypethatisfavoredbyoneselforbyparents,suchascousins.Iftheyarerelated,parentswillentrustanacquaintancetoactasamatchmaker.Inthe1960sand1970s,manycousinsgotmarriedinruralareas,andthethirdrepresentativeofsiblingsgettingmarriedwasmore.thisiscalled\"newrelativesgettingmarriedwitholdrelatives\",whichisevenmorejoyful,butthiskindofcloserelativesgettingmarriedisstillnotgood.
theengagementrequiresfourkindsofgifts,thatis,afewpiecesofcloth.decentfamilieswillusedacronanddacronfabrics,nylonsocks,andthosewithpooreconomicconditionswillusekhakiclothandcottonsocks.Inthisway,eveniftheengagementissuccessful,themancangotothewoman'shomeandsendsomegiftstothewoman'shomefortheNewYearholiday.Generally,thefourkindsofgiftsarethesame,namely,thebeginningofSummerFestival,thedragonboatFestival,themid-AutumnFestivalandtheSpringFestival.meat,eggs,noodlesAndapieceoffabric,afterayearortwo,whenbothpartieshavenoobjections,thewomantellsthematchmakerthattheycancuttheshoesample(thatis,themantellsthewomanthesizeoftheshoeswornbyhisfamily).themangivesthewomansomemoneyforcuttingthesample,whichwasonlyafewtensofyuanatthattime.thewomanneedstomakeapairofshoesforeachmemberoftheman'sfamilyandmatchthemwithhand-embroideredinsoles.
preparationbeforeandaftermarriage
Anecessarydowryforwomen
beforemarriage,themangivesthewomansomemoneytobuyadowry.dependingonthefamily'seconomicconditions,hecangivethewomanthreetofivethousandyuanatonce,andregardlessofhowmuchmoneyshereceivesfromtheman,thesethingsmustbeallocated.onelargewardrobeorbinationcabinet,onetable,fourchairs,onebtable,onefoodcabinet,onewashbasinrack,twolargewoodencases,onesmallwoodencaseorleathercase(similartothelargertravelcaseatpresent),twohotwaterbottles,cupsandtoothbrushes,aluminumpotsforboilingwater,pressurecookerandotherdailynecessities,fourquiltsandapairofpillows.thosewithgoodfamilyconditionswillbeequippedwithamen'sbicycle,asewingmachine,ablackandwhitetVset,anelectricfan,etc.Infact,nomatterhowmuchmoneythemangivesthewoman,thewoman'sparentsbasicallydon'tusemuchofthemoney,andtheyreturnittotheirdaughtertomakecontainermoney.
whatthemanmustprepare
Inadditiontogivingthewomanthreeorfivethousandyuan,themanonlyneedstoprepareoneortwonewhousesanddoesn'tcareaboutanythingelse.Iftheman'sfamilyispoorandthereisnodowryforthewoman,thewomanwillalsobringallthedailynecessities.
onthedaybeforemarriage,themanmustpayagifttothewoman.thegiftsinclude:halforonepig,chicken,clothesorfabrics,shoesandsocksofthewoman'sparents,brothersandsisters.Allthingsshouldbeputinplace.Abigrackshouldbeusedtocarrythemtothewoman,sothatthewoman'sonlookerscanknowwhat'singataglance.Iftheman'sfamilyconditionisnotgood,hewillborrowsomethingtoputonittosaveface,becauseallthethingsthatwentthroughtheceremony,exceptforthefood,returnedtothemanthenextday.
thewomanshouldprepareasfollows
putredpacketsinthequilt,usuallytwopackets,eachofwhichis40centsforthebedmaker.thebigwoodenboxisfulloffruit,peanuts,sweetpotatochips,eggs,candybiscuits,andclothes,shoesandsockswhenyouseetheman'sparents,brothersandsistersintheman'sside.Inaddition,theparentsalsoneedtogivethedaughtersomeboxmoney(hundredstothousandsdependingontheconditions).becauseaftermarryingtheman,themother-in-lawwillopentheboxthenextday,andpeopleinthevillagewillearoundtoseetheexcitement,thepurposeistoseeifthewomanhasgivenenoughmoneyforthecontainer.
onthedaybeforemarriage,thewomanwillnotifythemanhowmanypeoplewilletoliftthingsthenextday.Generally,eightormoremenarerequiredbecausethewomanneedstocarryeverythingtotheman,andtheman'sroomonlyneedstobepreparedwithanemptyhouse.thenextmorning,aweddingprocessionwasarrangedforthemantogotothewoman'shousetoweleher.themenhadtogo,includingthegroom,twobrides(women),fivetosixgongsandcobaltteams,andpeoplecarryingthings.theyallwenttothewoman'shousetohavebreakfasttogether,blowingandplaying.Afterdinner,thewomansentoffthewedding,withonemanandtwowomenseeingoffthebride.theprocessioncarryingthingstookastepfirst,andthenthegroomandbridefollowedwithumbrellas.Regardlessoftheweather,eachpersonhadanumbrella,blowingandbeatingallthewaytothemanforlunch.
Afterdinner,theweddingsceneisalsothemostlivelysceneduringmarriage.thepurposeistohelpthegroomandbrideeliminatethefeelingofshyness.Variousprogramstrytomaketheirbodyandskincontact,suchasmouthtomoutheatingdates,twopeoplelightingfirecrackers,kittensfishing,andashpicking.themoretricks,thebetter.Nomatterhowbigorsmall,theycanmakeasmuchnoiseastheywant.Afterthe1980s,thehabitofmakingweddingscenesgraduallychangedtowatchingmovies,videos,andsinging.
conclusion:marriageinthaterawasthesimplest,especiallyforofficeworkersandworkerswhoatethenationalfood,letaloneworryaboutanything.theyhadfreelove,andwhentheygotmarried,theirunithadashareofthehouse.theunitleaderswouldpersonallyholdtheweddingfortheyoungcouple,andaftermarriage,theyoungcoupleslowlymadesomefurniture.Unlikenow,housesmustbeboughtbythemselves,andsomepeoplewouldbeepropertyslavesforalifetime.thaterawastrulysocialist!
Later,withthedevelopmentofsocietyandtheimprovementofmateriallivingstandards,betrothalgiftsemerged,startingwiththreemajoritems:bicycles,watches,andsewingmachines.Later,itdevelopedintofourmajoritems,fivemajoritems,andsoon,untilnow,Iwon'tsaymuchaboutit.